Healing Trauma and what to do!

Trauma happens every day all around us from the bees that loose their habitat from pesticides and neglecting the planet we live on, to the icebergs melting due to global warming. Starving children in neglect and poverty even here right on my doorstep in Leeds. Trauma is something that is running through generations of families because we as a society don’t heal. Karmic patterns and behaviours, addictions and uncontrollable amounts of illness and mental health difficulties that are stifling communities and suffocating the NHS’s Mental health teams.

Everywhere I look people are wanting diagnosis’s and answers but when the diagnosis or the medication is given the trauma goes unhealed, just labelled and suppressed. Children as young as 2 and 3 growing up to be placed in social, emotional, mental health schools and labelled by society as naughty, a nuisance or just parented badly. Those like myself who work within these educational settings will tell you a much different perspective of these vulnerable children- that just require love and time. That however is a different blog that I will shortly write about in the summer.

Trauma needs talking about it needs un-locking and addressing and cutting ties with on an emotional level. This requires inner reflection and self love which I only discovered after having meany years of trauma. We as humans have become so obsessed with technology and success that we continually loose our authentic selves and forget to look after our mental and emotional state. From young ages we are conditioned to brush it off, carry on, you’ll be fine. Brain washed by the media on how we should look cosmetically and fashionably. Yet in between trying to survive this brutal world and becoming obsessed with external appearances we neglect our inner health.  We eat junk, have negative thought patterns, smoke toxins and have forgotten about our meridians, chakras and pineal gland (third eye).

Millions of us encounter traumas be them big or small they are relevant and each and everyone one of us will be effected differently by them. I have found that within this superficial persona many of us feel we must follow we have become afraid of self reflection, self honesty and self criticism and most importantly self love. Whilst striving for perfection we have forgotten that perfection is in our imperfections.  Whilst hunting for a lover or companion thousands of us walk the earth not loving the most important person which is yourself. Part of loving yourself is to take the brave steps and long strides in healing yourself from traumas you have felt and seen. For if we don’t break the cycle it will only continue.

Recently I have embarked on deeper healing. From a young age id seen, heard and been through a lot of trauma resulting in been in foster care. Abusive relationships, domestic violence, PTSD and self harm the list goes on. I have sat in years worth of therapy and counselling but repeating the conversations and re living the traumas didn’t fully heal me. I learnt that I had to go deeper. Going deeper meant asking myself why didn’t I feel better why was I still unhappy why couldn’t I let anyone love me? Why did I still suppress emotion in wine, cigarettes and tears, why was my health externally still not OK?

It was no surprise that I had to think outside the box and look at alternative holistic ways to heal. When things are out of sync spiritually in our auric fields, meridians and mind it weakens our physical body making us often tired, craving unhealthy foods and generally having a low morale. Sadly this often leads to physical conditions and pain. Which is in turn is why we look for a fix be it an alcohol drink, caffeine, nicotine or harsher drug like cocaine. Life becomes too hard to deal with so we disassociate to cope.

I have found recently that a simple sentence said to me repetitively triggered flashbacks of 3 horrendously traumatic experiences I had been through. All 3 were at different ages in my life 3, 7 and 18. I am 30 now and it has taken all this time for that trauma to be unlocked. The crisis healing I was experiencing followed a treatment I had recently had. In having the trauma triggered  I know the treatment worked successfully because I was able to release it. Letting go of the trauma lead to a lot of tears in fact nearly 24 hours of crying from my soul. In doing this I have been able to pin point what had caused the trauma and why it was triggered and why I was so upset. This is something I was never able to do before. I want to share some things that I have explored and found helpful in deepening my ability to heal trauma.

I hope by sharing these I can help at least a handful of people start the healing process.

Trauma Healing List of activities 

1.) Walk in nature as often as you can 3-5 times a week, smell flowers, sit by trees and listen to the surroundings.

2.) Drink hot water and herbal tea. Often trauma causes digestive issues and herbal tea and hot water especially help these and help the mind have clarity because a hydrated mind is clear. I recommend Nettle, peppermint, chamomile and Aloe blossom herbal tea.

3.) Meditate daily and listen to brain healing music. Meditation brings calmness and allows the third eye to come alive. It is great for relaxing and sleep but also grounding and healing.

4.) Acupuncture – Chinese medicine is awesome and if you don’t mind needles do some research into it. This can align your meridians and release trapped emotion.

5.) Reflexology, If you don’t like needles this is a great way to find out health problems and the emotional link to it.

6.) Celery juice follow it on Instagram or the Medical Medium to find out how amazing the benefits are. Drinking Aloe Vera is wonderful. I retail the Aloe because it has helped myself and my children hugely so feel free to visit my online shop and ask me any questions http://www.franshaw894.foreverlivingsite.com/

7.) Fire and Moon rituals- Writing all your feelings down on to paper, all the negative feelings or situations that you do not want anymore and surrendering them to the universe. Throwing the paper into a fire pit is therapeutic and empowering. Doing the same with what you would like to manifest in your life be it health, abundance, travel, new job etc.

8.) Reading books that awaken your understanding of diagnosis or labelling. If you or a child or family member have behaviour or emotional difficulties I would recommend reading the Indigo Children – see picture in this post.

9.) Reiki or Shamanic healing. Reiki Healing works on your energetic field and Shamanic healing assists in retrieving lost soul parts you may have lost during trauma. With this you can integrate power animals to meditate with.

10.) Keep a Gratitude and dream journal daily. Upon writing about what you are grateful for daily be it your house, children, job, personality, looks, hair, friends etc you will manifest positive things into your life. Keeping track of your dreams allows you to research them and find out what is subconsciously going on for you. In doing this you can learn what you, yourself, are trying to tell yourself in your dreams.

11.)  Mizan therapy. Working on trauma of the womb or stomach following birth, miscarriage, polycystic ovaries, endometriosis and abusive sexual relationships. Amazing for tilted wombs, conceiving and cervical cells and many more health benefits.

I can sign post you if you do not know any practitioners in your area for any of the things I have recommended in this blog. I have personally tried and had results from all of the treatments I have discussed. Feel free to contact me via Instagram at the Realist writing mum. Alternatively comment under this blog.

written by Francesca Shaw

25/5/19