Womb Cleansing, Sex and Vaginal Steams!

  Growing up I was exposed to many stories with sexualized vocabulary.  By age 6 I was aware of the birds and the bees and found it quite easy to discuss with my fellow school age peers. Unbeknown to me it wasn’t actually deemed appropriate to share stories quite so explicit and vulgar as my primary teacher explained. I was only repeating what I had openly being told from my mother and heard in arguments or films.

Progressing into my teenage years I was mostly left to learn about my blossoming womanhood independently. I was never given the opportunity to have open discussions about the changes my body was going through be it on a physical or emotional level. Starting my menstrual cycle was daunting, my friends had all begun before me and I had felt like a late developer. Upon the day arriving in January 2003 I was 14 and I remember being told to “get on with it, the pads are in the bathroom draw and women are to carry on as normal. You can still go swimming and participate in P.E without making a fuss”.

Looking back I really wish I had questioned this more however I did just get on with it. The unfortunate thing for me was I was a very vulnerable teenager with an array of attachment and unhealthy relationship ideologies. I desired love and quickly developed a perception around my heavy menstrual cycles that love was shown via sex.

Sex was a way to be held, touched and become someones priority for a short while. Having lived a childhood of sporadic homes, dysfunctional separations and witnessing unpleasant violence-some sexual. I had always found it hard to ask for hugs from care givers, however with intercourse I didn’t have to ask. I became fickle in my naivety and bounced from partner to partner at the tender age of 14-16 which inevitable ended in teenage pregnancy.

This manifested into sinister unhealthy relationships. Long term emotional, mental and physical violence, even lead on to being high risk domestic violence. By the time I was 27 I had still failed to realise that sex could be used to control and manipulate.  It was only when I came into my 28th year did I learn about something called Mizan and Shamanic Womb Clearing. I was introduced to Mizan therapy after my fourth child, my hypnobirthing practitioner recommended I had a trial after birth. Being an extremely open minded individual I embraced the holistic therapy with open arms and what I learnt has changed my life!

Women seem to have forgotten how important their wombs really are.

women seem to have forgotten how to treasure, respect and take time to listen to their wombs.

I had never ever even realised my womb was connected to mother earth and if the moon can move the ocean then surely It can move me emotionally – given I am 90% water! Why wasn’t this discussed in science lessons like biology or when we learned about the planets? The moon is so significant to a woman’s cycle yet it’s never really discussed and if it is, your instantly a hippy! Anyway back to Mizan, Mizan teaches you a variety of things physiologically around taking care of our womb space and allowing ourselves to rest and listen to our biology. For anyone wishing to learn more about themselves in this way I highly recommend the book 4 seasons 4 weeks (image at the top). Mizan is relaxing and performed by a trained practitioner that performs an abdominal massage for around 45 minutes. This massage is able to help realign your womb if it’s tilted (this makes sex painful sometimes) yet so often us women just put up with painful sex like it’s normal! Why? Why should it be painful, this isn’t just about practicalities ladies it’s about a planetary shift as we have spiralled so far away from our divine centres that we unfortunately hardly ever resemble our emotional, mental or physical original design.  Mizan is able to assist with the list I’ve written below, these conditions are constantly thrown around at women like they are the norm to be diagnosed with now, 

• Endometriosis 
• Polycystic ovaries 
• Prolapse 
• Painful periods
• Hormone imbalance
• Tilted womb
• uncomfortable intercourse 

These are now common knowledge and yet every month we suffer or our sister or best friend suffers, or our friend at work suffers and they continue to suffer most of the time in silence questioning their ability to be a woman.  We have lost so much of our power with regards to our monthly flow and the very thing that ignites our earthly feminine being.

Here is me having Mizan and regaining my power and learning about my womanly organs.

Entwined with my Mizan treatments I begun my Shamanic journey. Shamanism and shamanic healing is used for many things such as soul part retrieval which I have had several times. You must be thinking what has this got to do with Mizan? Well quite a bit because when we choose to have intercourse we exchange our energies with the person we make love to. I call it Sacred Energy Exchange you perhaps know it better as SEX. Therefore If we are heterosexual and having sex with a male partner they are offloading their energy (ejaculation) into our womb space. Wombs are one of the main areas of the female body that we as women hold all our emotion, also known as the base or root chakra. Inevitably this energy that has being exchanged sits within our womb and can be passed on to our offspring. Consequently if that partner you have being with is holding on to their own trauma or toxic energy from drugs, Chakra blockages and behavioural patterns this is often then passing down to generations of children if it is left unhealed by the parents.

When I heard this and reflected on my own past relationships I knew that I had to delve into this area deeper. I had experienced a traumatic and toxic past, so I too, was highly likely to have womb space trauma and negative stagnant energy.  I choose to do my own research in shamanic womb ceremonies and I strongly urge you to go away and do the same if this is something that interests you. I hope that this small snippet of information is enough to enlighten and make people aware of what is out there, below is an image of the Native Navajo marriage basket that is used in the ceremony and placed upon the womb space. During the ceremony you will do things like extract negative emotions and partners energy from your womb space and have an opportunity to welcome back your new womb intentions. 

Throughout my spiritual journey I regularly earth myself outside in nature, by this I mean submerge myself in the ground bare foot and take time to just breathe in the fresh air around me. This helps to connect the body and mind to the earth and re charge energy levels that perhaps feel depleted and tired. Just like our disconnection to our menstrual cycles we often disconnect mentally. We are mostly all guilty of too much TV time and abuse of our phones, laptops or social media platforms, earthing is a free and natural way to ground ourselves and take time to just be. I recommend earthing on the 1st day of your period if you are female along with a vaginal steam! Yes I did just say that, It’s fantastic and so relaxing- sisters honestly your missing out, be brave and give it a go! I’ll explain how its done below with the images of the kit!

So it starts with purchasing a Vaginal steam and these are between £5-10 usually. One lasts me several steams so it’s well worth it. Each pack contains beautiful petals of rose, lavender and beautiful smelling herbs blended together and dried out. You simply boil the kettle and pour a full kettle into a glass bowl preferably a Pyrex dish. Then lift the toilet lid and place the bowl in the basen of your toilet. I then lower the toilet seat and sprinkle the ‘vag steam’ into the bowl and then simply sit on the toilet as you normally would. Sit back with a book and relax for a good 20 minutes. I often sit on the toilet rim as I like the steam to be very hot, that’s personal preference, the closer the bowl is to your vagina the warmer it will feel. The heat simply rises and you relax! I sometimes light candles in the bathroom and make it quite ritual like -again personal preference. These little steams are fantastic for women that struggle with bacterial vaginosis or thrush. They help relax you on the first day of your period and I have found for me, it’s benefit is, it eases my period pain.

Written gradually by Francesca Shaw over 2020 after at least 5 Mizan sessions and 1 Shamanic Womb cleansing ceremony.